- I love that I have a friendly face and a genuine smile.
- I love that the colour of my eyes pair well with the song “brown eyed girl”.
- I love that I have a strong body: strong enough to pick up running every year in the spring and strong enough to kick each boys ass when I took my police foundations fitness testing.
- I love that I’m a caring person and it shows in my relationships and career.
- I love that my confidence allows me to accept my perfectly imperfect self.
Okay girlfriend, now it’s your turn! I challenge you to stop what you’re doing and list 5 things that you LOVE about yourself. Comment below, DM me or write on my instagram/facebook link what your favourite qualities are- I truly want to read them! The reason I challenge you to do this is because I feel like as a human it’s easy to find the one million things we don’t like about ourselves instead of recognizing the one million things that are GREAT about ourselves.
If you asked me when I was in high school what I liked about myself, I would have rolled my eyes onto another planet…insert a hormonal and dramatic 14 year old here! Side note: lord help me if I ever have teenaged girls, because I sure as hell gave my parents a run for their $$$! With time, maturity, self-help books and positive role models I was able to learn that accepting and loving myself felt so much better than focusing on the things I wished I could change about myself. This change in mindset eventually changed the things I hated about myself into the things I now love about myself. For example, I used to want a more generic name. Now, (with the exception of never having any personalized souvenirs) I love that I’ve never met anyone with the same name as me! It makes me unique and it’s something I get complimented on the most!
I feel like what’s most common when people talk about self-esteem is the topic of body image. I’ll share a secret with you: the minute I stopped worrying about the number on the scale is the minute I stopped defining my worth by my body weight. Have I been skinnier? Hell yes! Did I spend years of my life worried about what I was eating so that I could fit into a pair of jeans that did NOT help boost my confidence? Hell yes x2! When I hit age 18 I quickly realized that my body and hormones were changing. Farewell to the years of eating carbs without seeing them go straight to my ass (who can feel me on this one!?) Throughout this transition of my life I began finding role models that I could look up to and brands that I could relate to. The first time I remember a brand addressing self-esteem was when Dove created a campaign focusing on the evolution of photoshop and how women view themselves. Fast forward a few years, the brand Aerie stopped photo shopping their models and I could finally see someone who looked like me, my best friend, my co-workers, my sister, my mom, my cousin or my aunt all embracing their differences! When #AerieREAL began branding body positivity, I was able to see models in the industry like Iskra or Ashley Graham on the cover of magazines preaching to the choir that there is not one “perfect body”. I was clueless to the fact that I wasn’t the only one who wore different sizes in different stores. I was clueless to the fact that almost every woman has cellulite. I was clueless to the fact that adults had acne. I was clueless to the fact that everyone has rolls when they sit down. I was clueless to the fact that you didn’t have to look one way to be considered beautiful. Obviously the influence of these brands and models worked, because instead of focusing on wanting to look like a model, I began to want the confidence that they were selling to the world! They were able to stand next to a group of diverse women in a photo shoot and rock what they’ve got while cheering on the girl next to them- and that’s the type of confidence I want every girl I’m ever surrounded in a room with to have.
To me confidence comes from within. It’s when I’m able to love what’s on the inside so much that it shows on the outside! I feel most confident when I’m taking care of my mind, body & soul. I’m talking I feel confident when I crush a 5km run (for my mind & body) and I feel confident when I decide to crush half a pizza (for my soul). Fast forward to age 23. I’ve never been as confident in my own skin as I am now. What changed? I unfollowed unrealistic “motivational” influencers on social media, I started reading more personal-development books, I stopped focusing on the number on the scale and started focusing on how my lifestyle was effecting how I feel, I changed my priority from being “pretty” to being “pretty damn educated, kind, funny, loving, caring” etc., I stopped allowing my self-worth to come from someone else’s opinion of me and I finally told myself the most important relationship I could have, is the one I have with myself first…And that my friends, is a recipe for the type of confidence that allowed me to double fist margaritas while eating pizza on a beach this year- you’re welcome!
But in all seriousness, I want you to be able to make a list of the things you love about yourself flaws and all (and truly believe it) the way you would be able to list all of the things you love about your best friend! Now be brave and share some self-love in the comments below! xo
Today’s Mantra: The world needs who you were made to be.